Last night while watching Costa’s Garden on SBS TV, I was enchanted by a young man dressed in no more than the shirt and shorts of a gardener at work.
Not elegant in the traditional sense of the word.
He was participating in a segment about the Kevin Heinze Garden Centre, in Doncaster Victoria.
The Kevin Heinze Garden Centre is a wonderful place that helps both children and adults, who are either disadvantaged or suffer from some form of disability, find a purpose in their life.
The young man approaching Costa, Lee Courtman, clearly has a disability.
But his manner is thoroughly captivating.
And the way he so smoothly moves his body as he walks is so very elegant.
While watching him, I mention to Victor how charming and gracious this young man is.
I’m still thinking about him today and questioning why.
That’s the problem with the subtlety of intrinsic characteristics and traits.
They defy being stereotyped.
And sometimes even being self evident.
It’s akin to the supposed charisma of the ‘IT’ girl.
You’ve either got it. Or you don’t.
But the ‘IT’ girl doesn’t appeal to everyone, does she?
It’s hard to put your finger on why one person is more appealing to you than another one.
For me, it’s the simplicity and genuineness of Lee’s approach to Costa.
A smiling face, his hands clasped comfortably in front of him, extending a verbal invitation as well as gesturing to Costa to come and visit his garden.
I saw a personal charisma that obviously travels with him 24/7.
This is what’s so interesting about our attraction to other people.
Not everyone feels the same.
Have you ever noticed that?
You’re part of a group, meeting other people. And suddenly you click with another person. While the other members of your group are clearly not as attracted to this person as you are.
This is why personal magnetism is just that.
The magnetic current of another person that either latches onto your positive pole and sticks like glue.
Or is repelled by your negative pole and no matter how hard you try, you will never make a connection.
In other words, we attract like objects. And like people.
Which is why we’re not friends with everyone.
At the end of the day, elegance is in the eyes of the beholder.
It goes far deeper than the classical fashion sense of a Poloma Picasso.
Or an impeccably dressed Cary Grant.
It’s an ethereal quality that enables the traits and mannerisms of another person to totally captivate you and make your soul hum. Even if only for a few seconds.
This Guerrilla From The Bush knows when I’m in its presence.
And I’ve no doubt that you’re often bemused, and confused, when you realise this state of harmony is not shared by everyone at the time and may only be unique to you.
Take care,
Carol
